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3 Big Life Lessons Dance Has Taught Me
I have been dancing since the age of 2. It is the one constants in my life, while
other things around me change. When I started, it was just about moving to fun dance tunes. Then it became about dancing with my friends. By the time I was 7, I realized I wanted to dance competitively, make it my “sport”, and I wanted to really improve and be the best I could be doing this thing I just loved.
Now I am 13 and heading into High School next year. I can honestly say that dance has helped me in 3 distinctive ways —
Dance is not just about winning or being a star. That is earned, and even then it sometimes doesn’t happen the way you want it to. Dance comes with a lot of “no’s”, “not yets”, and “you’re not readys.” It comes with a lot of falls and fails, where the only way back on your feet, is the ability to shake it off, learn from other talent, and try again. It also requires the ability to take corrections, make those corrections, without making excuses. Mostly, it requires you to push and be pushed by the talent around you. So when I get rejections or disappointment outside of dance, I know better how to handle them and pick myself up. I also believe that some things are simply meant to be.
Dance has taught me that even if you forget the moves, or are not
the best in the room, who you are on the inside will shine on the outside.
I’ve learned that confidence matters. The only way to connect with a song,
the audience, or even yourself, is to believe in yourself. This is something I
continue to work on. When I dance and perform, I can express myself and make connections. However, when I have to carry on a conversation, it is harder for me. I actually feel shy and sometimes uncomfortable. So I have to remember how I feel when I dance and translate that into the way I speak and write to people. Because I am learning how we “show up” matters..
Through dance, I want to help younger kids and kids with disabilities learn to dance and achieve their goals too. It has taught me that I can be a role model for others. We all can be. That just as look up to older talented dancers, I may be that someone for someone else. So my actions matter. My work ethic matters. Lifting up and encouraging matters. This is true on and off the dance floor...with family, friends, and even strangers who need someone to believe in them.
So when people say, “oh you’re a dancer”.
This is true, but it is so much more than just dance.